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  • This topic has 19 replies, 7 voices, and was last updated 2 weeks ago by missingsomeone.
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  • April 24, 2026 at 8:40 pm #44277
    missingsomeone
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    I lost my mum in Jan this year,she was in hospital for nearly 12 weeks we didn’t know we were going to loose her until the week before it happened,I’m so lost without her,how do u all cope with the loss? my whole year has been one thing after another and she was my go to person im really missing that,she should still b here life is not fair at all,my mind runs overtime there’s so many what ifs,why did it happen to our family,I can’t eat properly,sleep what’s that these days

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  • May 27, 2026 at 9:10 am #44621
    missingsomeone
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    @VMToby thanks for the kind words,I have lost so much in such a short time life is hard,I don’t know where I would b without the help of a couple of people,I did ring in on Monday when I was feeling really bad and a lovely lady helped me get through the day
    Not sure what I’ve done to deserve all this life is throwing at me at the moment n I do need some help to get through this

    May 25, 2026 at 5:03 pm #44615
    VMToby
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    Dear Missing someone,

    Thank you for reaching out to the forum – it took so much courage to do so.
    I am sorry you are feeling so lost and alone without your mother and that ‘you do not want to be here’.
    The loss of a parent who was so important to you can be overwhelming at times and sometimes we need others to get us back onto a path where the loss is a little easier to bear.
    Please know You matter and are important.

    Please reach out and contact Grief line on 1300 845 745 Victorian time 9-6pm mon-Fri and 12-6pm on Satand Sun.
    Or lifeline 24/7 on phone number 13 11 14.

    May 25, 2026 at 3:47 pm #44614
    missingsomeone
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    Does life even get better mine seems to just keep getting worse,I feel so alone I don’t even want to b here anymore

    May 14, 2026 at 6:05 am #44516
    missingsomeone
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    Hi @VM-Serenity66
    @ downennumb
    @ vm-oscar-at
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    Thanks for all your kind words,Mother’s Day was hard to get through the last few days feels like I’m back on the day mum passed,I need to find a good gp in my area I’ve just put it in the 2 hard basket at the moment
    What support groups r out there face to face

    May 13, 2026 at 10:59 am #44512
    vm-oscar-at
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    Hi @missingsomeone,
    You have been through some incredibly challenging losses that have compounded over time, so I can hear and understand the difficulty in finding purpose and someone thing to connect to. It can also be difficult to manage our grief and challenges on our own or with others that are moving through their own grief journey over a shared experience. It can also be difficult to reach out to strangers, but I can see that you’ve been able to do just that through this forum and receiving some helpful, empathic and caring responses.

    And even thought we feel that at times we may be coping, I can hear some strength and resilience in continuing to look to ways to cope and tools and strategies that guide you through this period. So I see you adding to your backpack of things to tap into, and maybe one day that will include reaching out to a GP, or local support group face-to-face.

    It’s a strength to continue to engage with the community on the forum and to share how the grief is affecting you, even if it feels like there’s not much change.

    Thank you for checking in with us.

    May 9, 2026 at 10:39 am #44451
    downennumb
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    Hey @missingsomeone I know things aren’t great at the moment, I highly suggest seeing your GP ASAP (if not already) for a mental health care plan consultation, its not a magical remedy but 10 bulk billed psychologist sessions can be very beneficial for you given you’re facing. May I also suggest using chaplain services, I think u would really benefit from a larger support network.

    As always, I wish you well.

    May 5, 2026 at 12:56 pm #44364
    VM-Serenity66
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    Dear @missingsomeone,

    I’m sorry to hear that there are family complications making things harder for you. Grief and conflict can make the mind race in painful circles. Getting your attention into your body can help step out of persistent overthinking. Some sensory grounding tools that might help are gentle movement like walking, stretching, doing a jigsaw puzzle, or taking in a movie or podcast with a story that you have to follow. Simple things like slow breathing, or a warm shower can also soothe the nervous system when the mind won’t quiet. It can take a bit of discipline sometimes to detect when you are stuck in a loop, and do something deliberately to break out.

    It’s always a good thing to see your GP if troublesome patterns won’t shift, or if you become concerned about your alcohol intake.

    I’m really glad to see @downennumb connecting with you. It’s so important for our community to support each other. It all adds up.

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    May 3, 2026 at 7:00 pm #44358
    missingsomeone
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    @ downennumb
    Not feeling great feels like I’ve nearly lost everything
    Some family issues have come up this last week
    Really don’t know what to do

    May 2, 2026 at 10:35 pm #44357
    downennumb
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    hey @missingsomeo how are you feeling now?

    I understand it has been very rough for you this year, sending my best wishes through

    May 2, 2026 at 6:24 am #44353
    missingsomeone
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    The day we lost mum I lost my purpose to walk this journey

    That day was the hardest day of my life

    Coming home from work seeing her empty chair,asking what she wants for dinner

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