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April 23, 2023 at 12:43 am #25063rjt123Participant
My mum passed away this week at age 80.
Not sure how, although it seems she died peacefully in her sleep at home. She was battling cancer since July 2021.
I’m struggling with loneliness at the moment … friends, relatives and colleagues have all been very supportive though I live alone (with dog) so it is a hard thing.
I’m also bipolar so there is that too that I need to keep an eye on.
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May 18, 2023 at 4:45 pm #25619VM-grace653833Participant
Hello @rjt123,
I’m sorry to hear about the loss of your mum. The grief of losing someone we love after a long fight with an illness such as cancer can be particularly difficult to navigate. Thank you for reaching out to the forum – I think it takes a lot of bravery to do so.
I really love your idea of donating to the dog rescue organisation in honour of your mum’s memory. And in terms of your new pup, I hope you are adjusting to having two in the house (and that they are getting along)!! It sounds like you are surrounded by a lot of love from colleagues, friends, and relatives.
I’m glad to hear you have been taking care of yourself since your mum’s funeral. Sleep is very important, I agree!
Know that we are here for you as you move forward in your grief journey.
- This reply was modified 1 year, 11 months ago by VM-grace653833. Reason: Didn't realise there was a second page of responses and was repeating a question!
May 18, 2023 at 9:45 am #25618VM-montyParticipantHi @rijt123, thank you for sharing your story about the loss of your mum. It warms my heart to hear that you have so many beautiful people offering their support. How have things been going for you recently? I am glad to hear that you are doing your best to look after yourself during this trying time, especially in preparation for the funeral. Like @vmestia I am just so happy for you that you have paid homage to your beautiful mum by setting up her charity and looking into adopting a furry friend and snuggle buddy! I can imagine how happy this is making her! As always, you are free to call our helpline, 1800 845 745 if you are ever in need, or just want to have a chat about how things have been for you.
May 13, 2023 at 1:52 pm #25576rjt123ParticipantThanks Kay. I’m coping ok so far; I’ve had the dog for about 2.5 weeks now … he is a handful! He will need time and training and also some work on the fences. My spending is a bit high, but has calmed down the past week. I have an old friend coming over for Mother’s Day so won’t just be me and the dogs. I’m back at work now full time after a few days off here and there. Sleeping better now as well, which is very important. Chipping away at all that needs doing.
May 13, 2023 at 1:36 pm #25575VM-KayParticipantHello rjt123,
I have read through all of this thread today, and it was heartwarming to read other people’s responses to you. But I’m wondering how you are going now that almost 2 weeks have passed since the funeral?? Are you coping OK? Did you get the dog yet? Please know that we are here for you. We all know that tomorrow is Mother’s Day, and this can be a very difficult time for lots of people. Below are some tips, shared in Griefline’s newsletter that you may find helpful. Take care
We hope these tips will help you or someone you know cope with grief associated with mother loss this Mother’s Day:
Honour your mum by doing something she loved
Nurture yourself and do things that bring you comfort
Accept whatever feelings arise without judgement or criticism
Take the pressure off and do what feels right for you, even if that’s nothing
Wear something that was hers, like clothing or jewellery
Write her a card or a letter, or journal your thoughts and feelings
Remember that support is availableMay 1, 2023 at 10:38 am #25128VMKatParticipantThinking of you today @rjt123; we’re here for you after the funeral if you need a chat, or please call the helpline 1300 845 745.
April 30, 2023 at 7:33 pm #25126rjt123ParticipantWell the funeral is tomorrow … I am looking after myself and we are all well prepared for a harrowing day
April 29, 2023 at 2:49 pm #25121vmestiaParticipantDear @rjt123, so glad to hear you are continuing to receive love and generosity from multiple sources… and aren’t dogs simply a fountain of unconditional love and snuggles!! How deeply meaningful to carry on your mum’s wishes… and get extra love in her honour, with ‘home support’ from your work colleagues. I am so happy for you!!
April 25, 2023 at 12:26 am #25080rjt123ParticipantAs a tribute to mum I have set up a thing that people can donate to mum’s favourite charity (a dog rescue organisation). Work colleagues have also organised a contribution for me and I am going to use the funds to adopt another dog in mum’s memory – she wanted to get a dog this year. Better than planting a tree – I’m a bit unorthodox that way. I’m just overwhelmed by the love and generosity people I know are giving me at this time.
April 25, 2023 at 12:19 am #25079rjt123ParticipantThanks all for the support
April 24, 2023 at 3:26 pm #25076vmzefParticipantI’m very sorry for your loss. Losing a loved one can be very difficult, and it’s understandable that you’re struggling with loneliness at this difficult time. It’s good that you have a supportive network of friends, relatives, and colleagues, but I can imagine that living alone with your dog can be challenging. Dealing with bipolar disorder while grieving can also be challenging. Remember that it’s okay to take time to grieve and process your emotions. Allow yourself to feel what you need to feel, and don’t hesitate to ask for help or support when you need it. Here is a resource that might help you with this challenging time. Please remember that we are here for you to listen and help where we can.
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