My wife walked out on me in January and has cut me off completely

[dave68]

How do I survive this . Im 57 and my wife was my best friend. She kissed me goodbye when she left for work and didn’t come home , she has cut me out of her life completely and not spoken a word to me since she left for work . I have no family or friends and I struggle every day , just to make it through the day. I am so lonely and lost without her . I became homeless for 4 months but have a temporary place to live now . I dont see the point in living with this pain .

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[vm-berry]

Hey @Dave68. I am so sorry to hear about your loss – there is so much strength in reaching out, many people will find it difficult to express these difficult feelings of grief, so I commend you for that.

You’re not only grieving your wife, who was your only family and best friend, but also your home, your sense of routine, which can be so hard to process.

I lost my grandmother earlier this year and did not get the chance to say goodbye, I cannot image how hurtful it must have been for you not knowing that when your wife kissed goodbye that it was the last time – the loss you loss feel shows the amount of love and care you had for her.

I understand what you mean when you say this is the hardest thing you’ve had to deal with in your life. Even though it feels like no one cares, you are giving it everything you have and you have reached out to the forums here at Griefline, which is a brave start. We are here for you!

[dave68]

Thank you , you are very kind . I am giving it everything I have . This is the hardest thing I have had to deal with in my life . Today is the first day I haven’t cried since my wife left. Thank you for the support, it seems that no one wants to know you when you are depressed and having a tough time . Which is very sad . I greatly appreciate your kind words

[VM-Serenity66]

Dear dave68

I’m so sorry you’re carrying this. It sounds incredibly heavy, and I hear how much pain you’re in brother. Losing someone so central to your life, especially without further contact or proper explanation, can feel like the ground has vanished underneath you. It makes sense that you would be feeling that way right now. I’m so glad to hear that you have somewhere safe to stay for now.

You’ve already shown strength just by reaching out here. While I can’t take the pain away, I want to remind you that your life matters, and there is a little community of people here who can walk beside you through this.

If you feel this is all getting too much for you and you are having thoughts about suicide do not hesitate to call Lifeline (13 11 14), Suicide Callback Service (1300 659 467), or Emergency Services (000) if you think you are in immediate danger.

At an rate, if you are not in danger please don’t hesitate to reach out here for further support, and to tell your story. How you feel matters to us, and many of us have felt this kind of pain (you can probably tell from my handle that we’re a similar age).
If you feel ready for it, our Helpline (1300 845 745) is available to have a compassionate chat about how you are feeling, and what this is doing to you. Check the website for times.

Wishing you kindness and healing

• This reply was modified 2 weeks, 5 days ago by VM-Serenity66. Reason: spelling

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