lost of my mum

[jane2788]

Hello,
I lost my mum about 6 weeks ago and finding it extremely difficult to cope some days. I miss her so much, we were very close and talk everyday. I dont even know what to do next. I feel so numb. I just want to cry all the time and be by myself, but the thoughts are so overwhelming and i am becoming quite anxious, tired and full of dread. I feel everyone around me is so happy whilst i am surrounded by darkness.
My friends and family are helpful but they can only do so much; they have their own lives to live.
I am currently on university placement, being away from the home, from my animals, from friends; in a new environment and it is quite isolating to deal with grief by myself and with no real connection with anyone around me at the moment. I am trying to be proactive take walks, go for a drive about to join a gym but those things only take up so much time to distract myself from it all.

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[VM-pink1]

Hi Jane2788,

Thanks for reaching out here and welcome. It sounds like you shared a very deep loving bond with your Mum. Grief can be one of the hardest experiences as a human being and you are so early on in your loss. It is understandable to be feeling a multitude of things from overwhelm to anxiety and a sense of being in it all on your own. Sending you armfuls of compassion, we are here for you.

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Here is a link on some strategies that might resonate with you as you navigate each new moment. Additionally, there are many other helpful articles in our hub and you can always give us a call on the helpline to chat with one of our volunteers on 1300 845 745, available 7 days a week from 8am to 8pm.
I can see your strengths of taking action to help your wellbeing at this all consuming time, keep going. You’ve got this. We are here for you…

[VMPatch]

Hello @jane2788,
I am so sorry to the about the loss of your mum, someone who has been so important in your life. Your loss is also very recent so it is understandable that you are still in the very acute stage of your grief and feeling so much pain. Having to deal with this while on placement makes it extra hard for you. I encourage you to keep doing the things you are doing to be proactive. You may want to look at the resources on our website to see if their are any other ideas their that you might want to try.

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Keep reaching out for support as you have done with this post. As you are at University I am assuming you are still young. If so, you may be interested in a podcast series run by 2 women who lost their mums when they were young adults. Their podcast is called ” Good Mourning”. They have also written a book with the same title. I have put a link below to their website

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You can also call Helpline to talk wit a trained volunteer. Call 1800 845 745 from 8am to 8pm.
We are here to support you.

[vm-jessie]

Hey @Jane2788, I felt the same as you when I lost my Mum, we were also very close and I still miss her very much. It must be hard being so far from home and your support systems, but I want to commend you for taking those proactive steps of walking and the gym, they may feel like they are only a distraction from your grief, but walking and exercise are important self-care practices. Please continue to reach out in the forum and call Griefline on 1800 845 745 if you’d like to talk.

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