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  • #26501
    lostandbroken
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    “Thank you for being you, my total all, my everything,” this is the txt John sent me on 8th of March, I read it often and cry, John hadn’t been ill but developed what the doc thought was viral infection on 20th Dec, Jan 19th he was diagnosed with stage 3 cancer , blood clots in the lungs, I sat by his side as I had for 6/8 hours every day , but the 9th of March, this day was different, I watched as the life slowly drained from him and he passed away, not even 6 weeks from diagnosis and like a thief in the night Cancer stole my everything . I thought I was coping reasonably considering the things happening around me, its been a long heart wrenching 6 months and its no easier.

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    vm-peacelily
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    Hi lostandbroken, I’m so sorry to hear about what you’ve been through. Watching our loved ones suffer and pass, and having to deal with the unexpected shock from the diagnosis would have been so heartbreaking. Losing your soulmate is never easy, and it can take months before things start to feel a little bit normal again…I like to think that even though it’s painful, it’s a sign of love persisting and living on somehow, even though they may be physically gone, it’s a way to remember how much of an impact they had (and have) on us.

    Please be kind to yourself, and give yourself time to grieve. Sometimes something that helps is to have little rituals or activities to help us commemorate and celebrate our loved ones we’ve lost, and helps us feel that they continue to be present somehow.

    What are some of your favourite memories of John, or some of the things you liked to do together?

    #26614
    VM-monty
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    Hi @lostandbroken, I am so incredibly sorry to hear about the sudden loss of John. Like @vm-peacelily mentioned, the pain of watching our loved ones suffer and fade away is just heartbreaking, and I cannot imagine the pain that came with receiving such a shocking diagnosis. I, too, lost a loved one from cancer in a matter of months, and the grief that follows is just incomprehensible. I wanted to check in to ask how you have been coping more recently. It is more than normal to feel like we aren’t doing “enough” to cope, but I hope you know that it couldn’t be more natural to feel lost, overwhelmed and stuck in those feelings of grief. Please be kind to yourself and allow for as much time and space to grieve. If you ever need somebody to talk to, please feel free to call Grieflines telephone support service – 1300 845 745, we are here for you.

    #26695
    VM-pink1
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    Hi @lostandbroken , just checking in. Six months is still very early stages when going through grief, especially when we loose someone so close to us, so suddenly.
    It is such a tough time, I hear you. I have lost two family members to different cancers. Grief can be so overwhelming in these early stages, some things I find helpful are eating healthy, trying to keep to a sleep routine and also connecting with friends/ family. It can be important not only to feel our grief but to also ‘take breaks from it’- try new activities (or mabey reengage in ones we miss). We are here for you.

    #26697
    vrmaggie
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    Dear @Lost and broken,

    Heart wrenching. Not everyone meets their soul mate in this life/world. I hope you can find joy in being one of the lucky ones who did.

    My aunty also recently lost her soulmate.

    Into his grave she placed a note,

    “Somewhere beyond right and wrong, there is a garden. I will meet you there.”
    ― Rumi

    I met her recently and we sat in her garden side by side talking and drinking cups of tea.

    I’m sharing this with you because John’s last text, “Thank you for being you, my total all, my everything,”, reminded me of it.

    I also sense that you are a strong and resilient person, like my aunty, with an enduring love and connection to John.

    Deepest condolences.

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