Loss of an uncle who died not long recently and my dad 6 years ago

[snowflaketabby24]

Hi so i signed up to this forum today,

Um i just want to say I’ve been grieving a lot lately around death and feel like i need a lot of support around grief a lot because of this. And not that long ago i got into a fight with a girl over text she couldn’t even say it to my face and she hasn’t been saying nice things and ended up saying that i can’t miss my dad after he passed away to pneumonia 6 years ago and my uncle died not long ago just recent he had cancer then didn’t have it anymore and then just one day he ended up in hospital and they think he got it back and didn’t want to tell anyone he was sick. I really miss them so much a lot lately tho and all i think of is them.

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[VM-pink1]

Hello and welcome @snowflaketabby24,

Thank you for the courage you show by reaching out here, I appreciate it’s not easy to share matters of the heart. Grief is a different experience for us all and none of us are ‘doing it wrong.’ There is no right or wrong way to grieve. Regardless of the time since loss, it is natural to still miss those with whom we were so bonded with. I imagine it is difficult for others to try to understand that of which is not their experience. You have a community here behind you that will listen as you explore and navigate your grief. Please call us on the helpline anytime between 8am-8pm AEST 7 days on 1300 845 745

There are also many helpful resources on our website such as this self care guide I will link for you.

A gentle guide to self-care after loss: The E.A.S.T. approach

Take care, all my compassion…

[vmrose33]

Hello Snowflaketabby24

I am glad that you have recognised your need for support in your grieving, and reached out here. I can hear how much your dad and your uncle have been in your thoughts and how much you miss them. That girl’s comments sound like they were very upsetting; unfortunately people often don’t know how to respond to someone who is grieving and that can be very hurtful.

How are you feeling this week? Would you like to share more about what you’ve been going through?

vmrose33

[snowflaketabby24]

Hi vmrose33,

I haven’t been feeling the greatest but getting through it day by day slowly because I’ve been grieving a lot lately and they don’t see how bad it hurts me on the inside and i wish they would just but out of my life and keep their mouths shut but they can’t even do that it’s that bad.

Snowflaketabby24

[VM-laura070]

Hi @snowflaketabby24, grief can be so overwhelming sometimes and it can feel pretty lonely and frustrating when friends or family don’t understand that we’re struggling with really painful feelings. Grief is a natural human experience but not everyone has felt it firsthand so it can feel isolating at times too. I’m glad you have reached out on the forum and it sounds like you are taking one day at a time which is a really good strategy for moving through this difficult time of missing your Dad and uncle so much. If your sadness is affecting how you’re functioning, or you’d like to share more or chat to us about your Dad and uncle, you can always call Griefline on 1300845745, you are not alone and there’s a really great team of volunteers that are there to listen. Keep taking that time for yourself to move through this and keep doing the things that help you feel better.
Take care <3

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