Beautiful bun I miss you today

[leswrld]

Two weeks ago I had to put down my best friend a half giant/lapine bunny. Almost 7 years I had her since I could hold her in my hand and walk around with her in my hoodie pocket. She was indoor almost always. She moved with me when I broke up with my ex. I’m aware I probably bonded with her due to abandonment issues but I loved this bunny so much. She was my emotional regulator she was my reason to live. She loved me unconditionally. This winter she had been getting unwell, I had taken her to the vet 2.5 weeks ago and she had a absesss under her ear. I refused to let her be in any more pain. She gave me 7 years of unconditional love and warmth. I haven’t cried since the day she passed. I try to feel my emotions, name them but I block them out without realising. I am numb but I want to cry. My cat is looking at me and is looking sad. I’m sad. But Im dead inside. I spent the last week in a PARC respite and now back home. I can smell her. I just needed to tell someone this, if you read this thankyou 🫶🏼 Sincerely, J

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[vmindigo]

Hi @leswrld,

Thank you for sharing- I see your loss and sadness. Your beautiful bunny has been your best friend over the past seven years. She provided you unconditional love and warmth and you loved her so much. It must have been devastating to have to make the decision to put her down. You are not alone, for many, the loss of a pet can mirror the grief experienced when we lose a close friend or family member.

Try to spend time with your cat, and shower it with affection, as it will also be feeling the loss and will need time to adjust. Studies show that pets can and do mourn the loss of their fellow pets.

To assist, here are some tips that may help with your loss… You could perhaps find a way to pay homage or honour your bunny’s role in your life. This can be by planting a tree, a plaque in a pet cemetery, or a photo or piece of jewellery that holds some significance. Also, connect with those who understand your loss. Many communities have pet bereavement support groups so check with your local council.

Social support is important at times of grief and loss, and its great you reached out to this forum. You can also call Griefline, if you ever feel like chatting to someone about your loss and associated feelings. Take care.

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[vmelsie]

Hi @leswrld,

Thank you for sharing this with the community. I am deeply saddened to hear about the loss of your bunny. It sounds like you two shared a very special bond, and that she has supported you through some difficult times in your life.

It’s completely normal that you’re experiencing some challenges with managing your emotions at this time. What you’re going through at the moment is your unique and natural response to grief, and while it may feel daunting right now, things will begin to shift and become more bearable.

Reaching out for support can help you to feel less alone during in this experience. You have taken a great step by reaching out to other people for support, and I truly hope that you’re able to find connections with others who identify with what you have shared. Do you have anyone close to you who you could talk to? Please feel free to also call the Griefline Helpline at 1300 845 745 to talk.

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