How to deal with loss of my dad

Dear hsoabkoe – thank you for reaching out at a time when this pain is still very present for you. It is very clear in your words how much your loss is having an ongoing effect in your world. You are right that having an understanding of the way grief does move individually for people doesn’t necessarily make the emotions themselves easier to deal with as they ebb and flow. But something important I noticed is that you are clearly trying to find different ways to process the grief on your own terms, and finding ways to engage back in a rhythm of life – so that is a strength. Maybe something to consider is whether what ‘moving on’ for you might not be what it looks to other people – distraction is one approach, but it may also be finding a way of gently remembering and ongoing connection that is not overwhelming, and allows you to express what you are feeling.

If you haven’t already, please feel free to look at some of the resources on the Griefline website: particularly the Guide to Coping With Grief & Loss, (https://griefline.org.au/resources/when-a-loved-one-dies-guide-to-coping-with-grief-loss/) and also the Bereavement Support Group (https://griefline.org.au/get-help/bereavement-support-groups/). The volunteers at Griefline are here for you, if you feel overwhelmed you can reach out to Griefline on 1300 845 745 between 8am and 8pm.