How do people get rid of things belonging to ones they have loved?

Dear ABC01,
Firstly, I want to acknowledge the deep love and care you have for your beloved cats, and the cherished memories you’ve shared with them over the years. It’s completely understandable that you’re struggling with the idea of parting with items that hold such significant sentimental value.
Grief and loss take many forms, and it’s essential to be gentle with yourself as you navigate these complex emotions. The process of letting go of physical items is surely challenging, but remember that the memories and love attached to these items live on within you.
One approach that might help is to consider the items as a form of tribute to your cats. Rather than viewing their disposal as a final act, think of it as a way to honor the joy they brought into your life. You might even wish to hold a small ceremony or take some time to reflect on your memories with each item before letting it go.
It’s also okay to take your time with this process. There’s no right or wrong way to grieve, and holding onto these items for as long as you need is perfectly acceptable. Sometimes, the passage of time can help us find ways to cope with the painful feelings associated with loss.
If and when you do decide to part with these items, it is sometimes helpful to find ways to repurpose them or give them a second life, such as donating to animal shelters, community centers, or even finding a craftsperson who could repurpose the materials into keepsakes. This way, the love and care infused into these items can continue to be shared.
Finally, remember that the love you shared with your cats, the joy they brought into your life, and the cherished memories you created together are the most important and lasting aspects of the bond you shared. No matter what you choose to do with these special items, the love between you and your cats endures.
Take care of yourself during this difficult time, and don’t hesitate to seek support from friends, family, a counsellor or check in with our Helpline if you find any of those things helpful.