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August 8, 2022 at 11:43 pm in reply to: How to navigate Early Grief, Lost my 6 year old daughter 3 weeks ago. #21632debsaygeParticipant
Just a warm caring hug for my dear friend, much love for you today, please know I’m sitting by your side
Hello dear hurting inside people,
Hi dear Moon, thankyou so much for thinking of me, means so much, I am often thinking about you as we seem to sit outside a lot. I don’t even feel the cold, just feels closer to Sayge, being out with the frogs and the nature sounds she loves so much, and the garden of course which the kids and I tended together so joyfully….
I’ve actually been having a really dreadful time as what I believed to be my closest friendship has blindsided me with an abandonment which I just can’t fathom!! So here am I with the loss of my Sayge and this on top has been pretty close to destructing me, when a friend calls you sister and tells you your her family (for 8yrs) and your at your most vulnerable point in life ever! And they just go, without any explanation!! I mean wtf is that… so that’s where I’ve been and have cried in much disbelief since….have managed to rationalise now that god I’ve lost so much more and who cares, and let it go.
Still cry everyday, mornings and night are the worst, things just keep knocking me around, My Archer is my best support, we just with Andy too go very quietly and slowly though these hardest days.
So I due to all that’s happened not much energy for the weeding although I keep trying. Our garden is sadly so beautiful.
So compassionate friends for you I think would be a great help, as it is focused on the loss of your child and every person there is a bereaved parent, for me I do have a CF who I’m in touch with but now her hubby is gravely Ill with the same our children had and I don’t have the confidence to seek out another or go to a group at the moment, also it’s too far away from us,I’d need to travel 2hrs, I had wanted to do things as a family (as we always have) and at one group (the one time we went) was a distressed mumma graphically describing her child’s suicide, which with Archer listening beside me I felt was just adding to his trauma and haven’t wanted to go back. Anyway that’s my experience, if it was just me I’d probably go as I know they are are very welcoming and helpful group, the magazines are helpful to us.
Thank you all for listening and dear Moon love to you always
XxDebAugust 8, 2022 at 5:26 pm in reply to: How do you find strength when coping with grief alone? #21630katevmParticipant
Thanks for reaching out! Seems we are all in a similar boat with the lonliness, otherwise we wouldnt be here! That is so true about having people you can talk to about ‘stuff’ but you can struggle and feel isolated in your grief state. I went to see a friend yesterday and just couldn’t tell them. I just wanted to leave. So I ate cheese and left. Good friends will come to recognize that you are struggling and to let you come to them when you need but a true friend will know what you need. Everyone is just too busy though-thats all i hear. BUT! I have this forum!! I love your idea of making art for special friends and family. I will try harder at that. Do you make NFT’s?? You also sound quite young judging by your comment about ‘fellow 18yo’s’. Had you not said that I would have thought you far older. You have seemingly ‘handled’ your fathers passing incredibly well (That is not a glib statement). Your words and sentiments are very mature and I am in awe. Well done you!
Big hugs or handshakes or whatever you need! You are not alone either.
How are you doing? I hope things have been getting better for your since your post. It sounds like you had so much change going on last year, and your complicated feelings around this all are completely valid and normal. It can be helpful to maintain of make new connections or to spend time outside but only when you are ready! I’m sorry that your partner doesn’t seem to be able to offer as much support as you needed, and I hope this has been improving. Have you been able to develop any support in the past year?
Please feel free to reach out through the forums or helpline (1300 845 745) at any time for a chat.
Thank you reaching out and for sharing your experience with such honesty and openness.
Reading your words, it sounds like you and your husband, David, had such a close and caring relationship together, and that you were an incredible support and advocate for him, through all he went through.
It is great to hear that the Griefline online support group was a positive experience, and the opportunity to connect with others, better understand your grief and learn tools to help you manage was valuable for you. Being able to get support with others who have shared experiences, can be such a powerful opportunity.
You certainly do sound strong to me, and you raise such important points about needing to grieve in your own way and setting boundaries to care for yourself. I like your comment that ‘some days are dark, but there is increasing light’.
Your resolve to be the author of your next stages of life and to honour David by living with positivity is so heartening. Thank you again for sharing.
I wanted to reach out, despite how long ago this was posted. Grieving can make us feel all kinds of ways, I hope you have been doing well and have a support system, and I hope you have found some happiness or are on your way to finding that happiness (even if you don’t know it yet). I’m sorry that your father hasn’t been there for you in the way you would like. Grieving can affect everyone differently in many ways, although this isn’t an excuse for him to neglect your feelings. Have you been able to build on this relationship with him or found support in anyone? Please reach out to us or call griefline (1300 845 745) if you would like to talk and express your feelings.
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I understand that this was posted a while ago now, but I wanted to check in and offer support. It’s always awful when everything feels like it’s going wrong all at once. It can be tempting to look for logic and blame, and this is a normal part of the grieving process for many people. You sound like you will be a fantastic, kind, social worker and I hope this career path is going well for you (but if it’s not that’s completely ok too)!
Have the therapy and mindfulness been helping? Please feel free to reach out on the forums or helpline (1300 845 745) to talk any time.
I understand it’s been a while since your post, but I wanted to reach out.
Your feelings are completely valid. Grieving your father is completely valid. I’m sorry that you weren’t able to celebrate him with the rest of your family; everyone grieves differently. Have you been able to find a way to bring him into your life and celebrate him a little? You sound like an amazing person. Being affected by grief in this way wasn’t your choice and it sounds like your taking some fantastic steps with your family.
I hope everything has been well and continues to improve,
T.August 8, 2022 at 4:12 pm in reply to: I Lost Two of My Best Friends and I Don’t Know What to Do #21623
I wanted to reach out and ask if you were doing ok? It’s ok not to feel ok too; that sounds like a lot to handle. I hope you’re doing well these last few months. Please feel free to reach out to us or a mental health professional any time. Our helpline is 1300 845 745.
T.August 8, 2022 at 3:12 pm in reply to: My dad died unexpectedly at 53. I can’t say goodbye to him #21622
I wanted to reach out and offer support. I’m very sorry that you had to experience loss in this way. I hope you are doing well and were able to find a sense of closure, and if you still feel you are grieving please know that this is completely normal and your feelings are always valid when it comes to experiencing grief and loss. Please feel free to reach out on the forums or to our helpline at 1300 845 745. We are here to be with you and listen. If you feel you need coping strategies and long term personalized support, perhaps considering a support group or grief counselor (if you haven’t already) would be a suitable option.
Thank you for sharing Crystal, best wishes to you.
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