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Dear G/l I am sorry about putting my number on I had just been copying my note word for word, so sorry about that…..
Dearest Moon, broken mumma of your beautiful boy, you are so right it is the cruelest, that’s the word, our children are part of us, always and forever, and to be taken like that rips into our very souls we are just left writhing in pain and that’s how it is now.
At the same time our love is still the same and I know we need to give it…..I’m feeling like that’s my purpose to open up our haven (Sayge’s haven) for other bereaved families, if I can help even 1 other mumma feel less alone, if my darling boy could be in the presence of other kids who’ve lost there brother or sister and meet all the animals etc, we’ll I think that’s creating a better world……
I too so wish you were closer, I would love to hug n cry with you, I’d feel safe, I hope we can do that one day, or talk on the ph for hours even…..
Your home in my mind looks beautiful with all the gums and bush land, all the native animals I so love it…..
I hope you don’t mind me saying you are my own carol king, and thank you so much my friend…..
I’m not a computer person At All so I wouldn’t even know how to start a whatever you called it, but I am here for you to rant to Always.
I’m a bit worried about having put my notes out at the shops, anyway I did it in a brave moment and we’ll see what comes won’t we….
Love to you much love to everyone
Thanks always for listeningvmtheelephantParticipant
Hi @jordanlou, thank you so much for your kind words to all of the fellow posters here who are still hurting through losing their own pets. Your honesty to share these painful feelings from losing Gus is so validating for all of us who’ve lost our best friends, feathery, furry or otherwise.
Thanks also for sharing these small but important ways that you’ve found to keep loving Gus. It’s wonderful to hear that talking about him and learning more about your feelings through this process is helping, and so thoughtful of you to share these discoveries.
Thank you for sharing – it is beautiful that you are supporting and caring for others when you’re grieving yourself. You sound very generous and caring.
I’m sorry to hear about your loss of your Mum and how difficult things have been for you. Losing a parent can be such a profound loss, particularly when they are the last of your birth family. My thoughts are with you.
I am also sorry to hear that you are feeling depressed. If you would like some more support, our helpline is open 8am-8pm Monday to Friday on 1300 845 745, Lifeline’s number is 13 11 14, and BeyondBlue’s number and live webchat are at: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/talk-to-a-counsellor. Also, feel free to continue sharing here. We would love to hear more from you.
There are also some ideas for coping with grief here, which I’m hoping are helpful to you:
Again, thank you for sharing and for being so supportive.
Hi @debsayge – thank you for your beautiful words of comfort and support. I’m sorry for your loss of your beautiful Sayge, and I’m grateful for your generous support of others in the community.
Hi @Moon – thank you for sharing the Timshel song. I listened to that song on repeat for weeks after an extremely difficult loss. I found it comforting, and I hope our community is comforted too.
Music and nature can be such soothing influences.
Thank you to both of you for being such generous spirits. My thoughts are with you both.
Thank you for sharing. I’m so sorry to hear about your loss of your dog. It sounds like the last week was extremely difficult for you and her, and that her last moments are really sticking with you. Thank you so much for sharing.
What was your dog’s name? And what was she like?
It can be so difficult when pets die, especially when they are suffering and we need to make the decision to put them down. It can be heartbreaking. We have some information on losing a pet here, and I thought the tips on coping looked very practical:
After something this stressful, it can also be helpful to make sure you are taking care of yourself. The self-care resources in this post might be helpful:
Thank you again for sharing.
Thank you for your post. It sounds like Tayla was a beautiful part of your life, and that she had a wonderful time with you after you rescued her. What you shared of your life together sounded so rewarding and fun for you both. Her dying was so sudden and she was such an important and central part of your life, that I can appreciate what a hole her loss has left in your life.
You are not alone in finding this very difficult. Many people struggle when their pet dies, especially when the pet has had such a central place in their lives and when a pet has been so dearly loved like Tayla. We have some information on losing a pet and some tips on coping here:
It can also be challenging to get the support needed (especially when Tayla used to go with you to most places). There is also some information how to seek comfort here. I hope there are some useful ideas in there for you.
And we would love you to keep sharing here how you’re going here. If you need to talk, our helpline number is 1300 845 745.
Hey Deb, I hear you. Wish I lived nearby. When I’m sitting on my deck feeding the birds, shedding tears, I feel less alone, knowing you are probably doing the same.
I can picture your home in my head, as you can probably mine from our sharings. We both have a child forever 19…
Like you, I have no family, friends disappear, but I still need to talk about my son. Not just about my loss, but also everything beautiful about him, like you with Sayge.
So many positives in despite of their lives being so cruelly cut short. So incredibly impossible hard for a parent to bury their own child..
I had my last grief line counselling session a few weeks ago, which I’m so appreciative for, we often talked about how little support there is for parents of adult children.
Insert swear words, but once my son turned 18, all the support he’d known since age 10 suddenly disappeared. That included me with Redkite counsel.
I love her idea suggested of setting up a safe place for parents to share, but I’m not up for the task, maybe you can create a site Deb ?xxxxxabbyParticipant
She was sick and wasn’t getting better she originally had an infection and was on medication but didn’t improve at all and we tried for over a week to keep her going but she wasn’t eating at all for that week was having trouble breathing she wasn’t going the toilet at all she could hardly stand and her head had started to bob as well as she had a heart murmur which is what the vet said was the reason to have her put down she was suffering the vet saidabbyParticipant
Iv just had to put down my dog of 11 years and I’m having trouble because I can’t seem to get the image off my mind of her looking up at me and giving me one last kiss before I handed her overizzytay04Participant
I lost my little 18 yr old chihuahua Tayla on Saturday. She was an abused rescue, so I had her for 11 of her 18 years. We were joined at the hip! In the last 3 years, I would take her absolutely everywhere except work. I wouldn’t plan any occasions unless Tayla could be there with me. Took her to the gym, coffee shop with friends and she was adored by everybody. Got a lot of attention and pretty much everyone in my social circle knew her and loved her. She would sit with me while watching telly, walk around while I garden and patiently wait for me while I had my appointments.
Her passing has been a very confusing and painful experience. She died of congestive heart failure, so it was very sudden and unexpected. There were no warning signs. She seemed very happy and energetic the morning before her attack. I very quickly took her to the vet and within 2 hrs of arriving she deteriorated. In the consult room, she looked like she was hurting, so I asked the vet to hurry with the injections. She died in my arms with her head resting on my chest.
Since her passing, I don’t know what to do. She was my world! My day was structured around her 5am/5pm medication regime and around her needs as well as my own. I loved every minute spent with my little girl, with the mornings being my favourite part of the day with Tayla. That’s when I would feed her, take her to the lake, coffee shop, gym, beach…whatever was planned. Now, I dont feel like I have a reason to get out of bed in the morning. I am terrified of waking up each day with the realisation she isn’t here with me anymore. I haven’t talked to her, held her or kissed her in 5 days now and I miss her so much. She brought so much love and laughter to my life and now she’s gone. I live alone, and feel like there is no point to life without her. We loved each other so much and we were a perfect match in life, had so much fun. I hate going to bed without her and I hate waking up without her. How do you get on with life without your soulmate? Im struggling to find a point to it all.