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November 25, 2022 at 8:31 pm in reply to: My pregnant wife died, I have 3 daughters, I am 32 #23520jessica25723Participant
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Sorry it has taken a little while for you to get a rely to your post. You said you don’t know where to start in your recovery but it seems to me that writing on this forum may be a step in that direction. You have experienced a huge amount of loss and it is not unexpected that you would be struggling. I am wondering what might be a very small next step you could take to move in the direction you would like to head. Perhaps you can get some ideas about this by reading our fact sheets about grief and loss and recovery on our website.
see link below
Given your childhood experiences you may also want to look at the Blue Know Foundation website which is for survivors of childhood trauma. See link below.
You said that you were crying as you wrote your post and this is an important part of healing. I hope you will continue to find ways to express how you are feeling through this forum. by contacting the helpline on 1300 845 745 ( am to 6pm), and/ or finding a counsellor that you can relate to.daybydayParticipant
Dear Sully, I am so glad you shared your story – everything you wrote sounds so familiar to me. My husband died on 6-October after a few days in hospital following a bicycle accident. At first, he was just in a ward for observation. After nearly 48 hours his blood pressure dropped dangerously low. The doctors moved him to ICU and he was put on a ventilator to stabilise his condition. The doctors discovered he had sepsis in a cut on his leg. They pumped him full of antibiotics, then they amputated his leg, but it was all too late because the infection spread throughout his body. I also felt right until the end that everything was going to be ok, but then suddenly it wasn’t. When he died, I was totally numb, I felt empty, and everything felt pointless. After a few days I descended into a black hole and contemplated suicide. I got help and decided to live, but it is not easy. Grief is hard. My friends are a great support, but it is not possible to fully comprehend how hard losing your partner is… until it happens to you. I really hope you are doing ok. I wish I could give you a hug. I am thinking about you.jazminevlotmanParticipant
I would like to first thank this service for a forum like this in the community.
I’m 25 now navigating grief in all directions, I’ve experienced loss and grief and not always in regards to death.. sometimes you just lose things like friendships, relationships, family members become distant… We ended up going through serious domestic violence when me and my little sister were growing up, we had to leave my house , my whole suburb, and we had to give our dog away I was 15 and broke down, I lost friendships I’ve been bullied and never really was able to maintain social connections, we lost everything we had.. over the next few years was troublesome, mum trying to be a single mum, looking after my little sister and changing our life completely. I then turned 17 and found out I was having a baby!!!! I was excited , then at 29 weeks they discovered she was small and I had to have tests… They called me into the hospital for a meeting about the results… My beautiful little girl was diagnosed with Trisomy 18 (Edwards Syndrome)… I was given the option to terminate or keep going with the pregnancy and I kept going with hope my daughter will make it… The 12th of July comes 2015 and after being in 3 day labour I gave birth to my beautiful daughter, drs thought she might be born stillborn due to the syndrome but she proved the drs wrong… I started to become confident holding her in my arms, I spent time with my daughter, my sister and my mum for 6 hrs, and at 3.25pm in the afternoon that day she closed her eyes and had her last breath in my arms …. Seeing death has changed my mind completely it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever seen or been through.. 7 yrs on I’m still struggling and crying my eyes out typing all this… When my daughter passed away, my little sister I mentioned earlier then turned to heavy drug use and crime, and she is 19 now , but I’ve also lost her to the system , my sister can’t come near us now because of violence towards mum and she ended up in refuges/independent living , she has turned on me when all I ever wanted to do was be a big sister for her and I’ve lost that too now.
I am now fearing that everyone or everything I get close too I can’t because I’m scared of losing them, all my friends have their lives and babies which I have a fear of being near babies so that causes isolation, I don’t leave the house cause I fear outside I’m a hermit and all I do is grieve, I just don’t know where to start in recovery because I feel loss and lost in so many things it’s damaged my capability of being a healthy human being…vmHopeParticipant
I’m so sorry for your big loss. Grandfathers are the best. I’m sure he felt very loved by you, especially with all your visits over the months.
Losing someone is never easy, let alone being the first time you’ve lost someone so important in your life. You may experience all types of difficult and unexpected emotions. Therefore, it is so important to be able to get the support that you need.
I sense that you are someone who does not shy away from talking about your grief. It takes courage and strength to be able to share your feelings with others who can relate to what you are going through. However, family and friends may grieve differently and express them in different ways, and even in different time frames. Perhaps, with the funeral offering a bit of closure, some family members may be more ready to connect?
Bear in mind, that even those closest to you can struggle to know how to help during a time of bereavement, so it’s important to tell them what you need. If you don’t feel you have anyone you can lean on for support at this difficult time, look to widen your social network, join a bereavement support group or online forums such as this. This is a wonderful and supportive community; we share similar losses but yet have our unique experiences and perspectives. I do encourage you to continue sharing your feelings and journey with us.
If you need to chat with someone, you can also reach out to Griefline Helpline (1300 845 745); or you can book a call through https://calendly.com/griefline_griefsupport/20min?month=2022-11.
I hope you are doing ok. Take care.vmirisParticipant
Sorry to read about your heartbreaking loss. It is sometimes said that ”the more we love, the greater the loss” and the love of our furry family members is a big, unconditional love and a hole that can be left behind. I hope you are finding things that can comfort you in the difficult times after your loss, but yes, please reach out here and use any of the services, a helpline chat, a booked call, this online forum. If/when you feel like it, you might want to share more about your precious Chloe, or you might not want to, or might do it elsewhere – there are no rules and no ‘shoulds’ but only what might help you and your family in these days.
My grandfather passed away almost two weeks ago and attended the funeral yesterday. This was the first funeral I have been to and the first person I have lost so close to me. He was diagnosed with cancer in March; his treatment did not work, and cancer grew. He was in and out of the hospital and his nursing home since around June and I visited him every once or two weeks. It is very hard to connect with the people around me because they either change the subject or refuse to bring it up. Any tips? Thanks.matildaParticipant
Thank you vmmichelle, I appreciate your advice.
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Thank you for sharing your story with us all and I really feel the sadness and shock in the words you have written and would like you to know that there are many people here for you when and as needed. One thing that really resonated with me was how you described your work environment, where your colleagues are pretending to confuse sympathy with empathy. It often happens that people are unsure of what to say, how to respond, sometimes saying nothing or saying to much and the bereaved person is left having to navigate all of these interactions on top of their loss. It is during this time that finding the right support for you is so vital. I hear that your whole world has turned itself inside and out and upside down and that during this time you will be caring so lovingly and supporting your children as well but it is so important that there is support for you too. Of course, that support can come in many different guises – it can be friends, family, neighbours, strangers, forums such as this, online resources and professional grief counsellors to name but a few. It really is one moment at a time as you grieve the loss of your husband and everything that he represented – your dreams, your relationship, parenting of your children, your future together. It sounds like taking the time away from work even though it was unpaid and a financial sacrifice was necessary to allow you to feel and grieve in a safe and more comfortable space.
In ensuring you take care of yourself in the coming weeks and months below is a link to our well being Toolkit. I hope it is helpful for you.
Sending support and strength – we are here for you.vmmichelleParticipant
Hi Matilda. I am sorry for your loss. Losing a parent is a major loss as they often are someone who has been a constant figure throughout our lives. As you approach the anniversary of your mum’s passing it is natural that it will bring up a lot of emotions, and probably more so due to the anniversary being Christmas day as this is a time when we tend to think of family. Yes, you are normal as there is no right or wrong way to grieve – it is an individual experience. As you say, when we experience grief it can be a roller coaster of emotions. I have attached a link to the Griefline website resources on ways to help cope with grief. https://griefline.org.au/resources/coping-with-grief/. Surround yourself with those who are supportive and disregard those that make negative comments. Also, if you would like to talk to someone about your experience of loss and grief there are trained and caring counsellors available at Griefline on 1300 845 745. Thank you for reaching out and try to be kind to yourself.