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Hi danji, your mum was irreplaceable. It is very hard. Make imaginary conversation with her and just imagine what she would say to you if she was still alive. She would want you to eat well and look after yourself. Every day is a new day of struggle. When I lost my mum in 2007 it took me a few years to get used to living without her. Life will never be the same. Try to build your life one piece back at a time. Only time can heal the hurt and pain.August 14, 2021 at 7:54 pm in reply to: Struggling to cope after my wife  died recently.. Not sleeping, not coping.. #16100
Hi Pete, seeing your wife’s belongings can trigger a flood of memories. I lost my brother just 5 days ago, 9 Aug 2021. There is a kitchen knife that he used to use in the Hospitality class. It reminds me of him and it breaks me down in tears. There is no easy way to cope with it. We have to try one step at a time. Sometime we succeed in controlling our emotion, other times we just end up in poodle of mess. Do not hold back and cry all the tears. That is what I did in the last 4 days. Write a journal to put your emotion into words. There is no easy path. Each day is a struggle, we have to be patient. Only time can heal.
Hi lakay, my younger brother passed away suddenly on Monday morning 9 Aug 2021. He was only 49 too. To make things worse he was in Indonesia and I am here in Australia during pandemic. It is heartbreaking and it will take time for your mind to process what happen. Especially when you see his things around, it just add to the feeling of loss. Try to slowly reprogram your mind so that when you see his belongings, you see in them not just him, but also yourself. Keep them safely in storage, knowing they mean something to you.August 14, 2021 at 7:39 pm in reply to: The added pain on top of deep grief… by insensitive others #16098
Hi , i agree that TOXIC people can make grief even more difficult. Try not to respond by being angry and make it worse for yourself. Try to be strong to their toxicity and to think of them of not worthy of your emotions. Focus on your Dad and surround yourself with supportive people. The last thing you need in that kind of situation is toxic people.
Hi Tamar1, it is difficult and hearbreaking. I lost my brother, 49 yo to Lupus on 9 Aug 2021. Spent a week crying in foetal position. Find a quiet place and let all your tears out. It will help you cope. Emotional tears contain Cortisol stress hormone. Let all your tears out so it does not stay inside you and kill you from the inside. When you play the music that your brother and you both liked, try to “reprogram” your mind – so that now you see in that music, not only your brother but also yourself. That is how i deal with it. Still raw, still in shock, but I am dealing with it.